"Six Ways to Make People Like You"
Rule 1.Become genuinely interested on other people.
Reflection: It is very important to care and hear from other people, because if you are just interested on yourself the other people will one way or another try to get away from you. If you want to get a friend or get people to like you, you have to ask questions about them so you can get to know them, because if you only talk about yourself they will automatically think of you as a coincided person. You also have to think if you would like to be treated the same way, because I can assure you that no one wants to sit and hear about all the others people’s life and you not even saying a word. If you actually try to follow this rule people will see what kind of kind person you are. Although some people are interested in others life you actually have to have a heart while you’re hearing the person talk because some people act as if they care when in reality peoples words come in through one ear and come out through the other. In some point in life everyone should realize that life isn’t just about you, and that the best way to know someone is by carefully listening to them. For example, every time I meet someone knew I don’t like talking as much. I usually let them do all the talking, but later on once I get to know them better I like to talk too. All the friends I have so far usually don’t like to talk about themselves a lot and we usually just share common interest and talk about that. In my opinion, a true friendship is talking about one another not just about one person.
"You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
I will apply this in my life, by listening to others more and more, because that's one great and easy way to earn friends.
Rule 2: Smile
1. “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
2. “You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”
3. “It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”
Reflection: Smiling is truly something that can brighten your day or someone else’s day. When other people see a smile from you, you automatically send positive vibes towards them. When you smile it shows what kind of person you are and many people will say you’re friendly and would like to get to know you. If you want people to get a good impression of you when you don’t know them, the best thing to do is smile, because if you don’t some people will not talk to you, due to the fact that they don’t know how you are. As you wake up you have to be determined to be positive all day so your day would be positive as well, and one way to do that is by putting a smile on your face. If you see other people with a smile on their face you’ll feel that urge to smile to and just by that little gesture you’ll day will turn rapidly into a great day. For example, at school I usually seem serious but when I see other people smile at me I can’t help but smile back. As I walk down the hallway many people must think I’m such a serious person due to my face expressions. But once someone smiles at me I smile back to show that I’m friendly and positive. In conclusion, every time you wake up early in the morning you have to remember to always keep that beautiful smile on.
I will apply this to my life by always keeping a smile in order to get positive vibes around me.
Rule 3: Remember names
- “A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
- “If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”
Reflection: It is very important for someone to remember others name because to me it shows how true of a friend you are. If you don’t remember someone’s name you rapidly make the other person indicate you as a person that truly just doesn’t care. When you talk to someone that’s usually something everyone tells each other, and that to me is sort of a responsibility for you to remember someone’s name because that shows how much you actually listened to the other person. By doing so you don’t only know who you’re talking to but you also get to learn more about the other person. Moreover, you get to show how good of a character you have. For example, when I meet someone new I always ask for their name and tell them mine. The reason I do this is, because I know that one day Ill wand to talk to them and need their help and I just don’t want to call them by, “Aye you” or anything similar to that, because I don’t want to sound rude. In conclusion, everyone should remember each other’s name because it can honestly tell a lot about that one person. I mean it’s common to forget someone name once or twice but you should be able to know it on the long run.
I will apply this to my life by listening to others carefully and showing an act of interest to everyone.
How to remember names…
- Face Association: Try to remember that one person’s face and find some qualities or features that’ll help you remember them.
- Repetition: Repeat the name often and try to use it more often.
- Make Connections: Try to find something in common; which can late on actually make you become very great friends.
- Speak Up: If you didn’t get their name don’t be afraid to ask for their name or repeat it.
- Spell It Out: Write it down or anything will help you sound out the name in order for it come out good when you actually talk to that person.
Rule 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
1. “If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”
2. “Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
Reflection: Being a good listener is very important, because other people automatically consider you as a good attentive person. It is very important to listen to others because not only do you show an act of respect, but you get to learn and hear many new things. By listening to others you can believe it or not gain more knowledge. In a conversation you should always encourage the other person to talk about themselves. This will help you get to know the other person better, and the other person will consider you a great friend and /or conversationalist. Usually when you don’t listen to others, you will rapidly be considered a selfish person, which I know nobody would like that. In life everyone would love to have someone to talk to too, so that the reason everyone should be able to listen to others, because you know you want to be treated that way. This act of listening to others should follow everyone in their life, due to the fact that there’s going to be one point in life that’ll you’ll have to listen to theirs, for example in school or any important interviews. In conclusion, listing to others and actually caring for what the other person has to say, is honestly the key in getting new friends and knowledge. 
I will apply this to my life, because I would like someone to do the same to me, because I know everyone on this earth needs at least one person to care and listen to them.
5 Active Listening Tips:
- Stay focused
- Really listen
- Allow for periods of silence
- Repeat the others person words or paraphrase them afterwords
- Understand the emotions behind the words
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