Dale Carneg
1.Don't criticize,condemn or complain.
"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."
"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."
Reflexion: This is honestly one great technique to follow in order to handle peoples friendship. Something my parents have always taught me is never criticize or complain. One reason in why I've been taught not to criticize nobody is because I would not like anyone criticizing me. This is important because no one wants to be criticized and feeling bad. So basically no one should do something they know they wouldn't like that to be done to them. Once you acknowledge that, one starts to understand and care for people even more. Also I've learned one should never complain, because we simply start growing selfish, little by little. The reason in why we start being selfish is because we start to forget how many others would die to be in our shoes. So once we start to complain then we automatically want everything to be perfect. One should never condemn others because we should always just wish the best for others. When doing that others will start to wish the same for you, and I know that nobody in this world wants anyone to wish the worst for them.For example, once I'm finished with high school, I will truthfully wish the best for everyone, because I know life can be hard and I would also just like the best for myself.
2.Give honest and sincere appreciation.
"The big secret in dealing with people."
Reflection: By being honest many people will respect you and will be honest with you too. I can assure you that many people would not like to be lied to every time. I believe that one should always be honest, because you would want others to do the same to you. Not only does honesty bring you truthful things in life like friends, but it can absolutely help you out in the future. When you give sincere appreciation people will automatically see you as a great loving person. By being sincere to others they will take you more seriously especially towards your feelings. This will not only show others how truthful you are, but it will also show others how loving and caring you are. For example, when I see others that truthfully need help I gladly help them and tell them what they can do and not do. By doing this I show the other person how caring I am. It also shows the person how I'm not selfish, and they actually count on me.In conclusion, one should always be honest and sincere because you have a better chance in getting a friend just like that.
A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.
I will apply this to myself by being more honest and sincere not only to other people but also to myself.
3.)Arouse in the other person an eager want
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot,walks a lonely way.''
Reflection: This means that you should always try to show others how determined and competitive you are. You should show others you actually try a lot for your work. By doing so one can see how eager you are and many would start to admire you. It is always best for one to show others what strong ethics you have, instead of showing others your weak spot. If you don't show others how eager you are and you show them your weak side, I can assure you that they'll take advantage of the weak spot.For example, when I'm in class I always try to arouse and be more outstanding than others; not in a negative way but simply to be good at something others are or many not. Out in the real world you mostly have to compete with others in order to get what you want. Once you start to think about it you see how much you have to arouse from others. Like universities, work positions, and awards you will always have to compete and shine between others, because you will not get any rewards just because. You have to show why you should earn it. In conclusion, one should always try to do and be their best to overcome others, but never in a bad and greedy way.
There is a great deal of difference between an eager man who wants to read a book and the tired man who wants a book to read.
I will apply this to my way of acting by trying my best and trying to compete with others not in a greedy way.
Final Reflection: I believe that all three fundamental techniques will help me and others be a better and brighter person. In my opinion, if one follows these techniques, we not only gain intelligence, but we can also gain respect as well as friends. Overall, I've learned that no body in this entire world would win something valuable by simply criticizing others. Instead of criticizing one should admire others and learn from them. By being honest one wins others trust and confidence. We should always be honest to others and our selves, because we would never want others to be dishonest towards us. Also I've learned that by arousing from others is sometimes a good thing or a bad thing. If we want to shine more than others we should always do it in a non-bad way. Many try to better than others just to make the other person feel bad. In reality one should try to shine brighter than others to make themselves feel and happy and get what you want. In conclusion I will apply this to my life by respecting others, wishing the best for others, and always trying my best; not only is school but anywhere else.
Final Reflection: I believe that all three fundamental techniques will help me and others be a better and brighter person. In my opinion, if one follows these techniques, we not only gain intelligence, but we can also gain respect as well as friends. Overall, I've learned that no body in this entire world would win something valuable by simply criticizing others. Instead of criticizing one should admire others and learn from them. By being honest one wins others trust and confidence. We should always be honest to others and our selves, because we would never want others to be dishonest towards us. Also I've learned that by arousing from others is sometimes a good thing or a bad thing. If we want to shine more than others we should always do it in a non-bad way. Many try to better than others just to make the other person feel bad. In reality one should try to shine brighter than others to make themselves feel and happy and get what you want. In conclusion I will apply this to my life by respecting others, wishing the best for others, and always trying my best; not only is school but anywhere else.
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