Ten Tips for Being More Truthful
Barbara A. Lewis
1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
2. Tell someone about your commitment.
Reflection: Being a truthful person is truly important due to the fact that every person who always says the truth is considered as a great and loyal person. One should always be truthful towards others because when one is truthful and others realize it you'll develop a grand friendship. When you commit yourself to being truthful you're basically heading to a CTR path. I believe it's good to tell others about your commitment because others may encourage you to keep doing what you're doing. Also if you tell others about your commitment you can even inspire them to do the same, and once they see your commitment they could even look up to you. People out in the world these days have an urge to lie, but ,many should change that because by lying to others it'll make you lie to yourself. In my opinion, people should always tell the truth because believe it or not it'll definitely benefit you later in your future. Remember that one you lie to others you'll later get used to lying and you'll end up lying to yourself. In conclusion, one step and maybe and maybe obstacle to others may be to quit lying and always tell the truth because lying never brings positive vibes into your life.
3. Think before you give an answer.
Reflection:Thinking before you give an answer is something one should always do in order to prevent any wrong responses and even offensive responses. There are many scenarios in which one should always think before you say something. For example, when one is at school and the teacher asks a question you have to be careful and think before you answer, in order for you to get things right, and in order to prevent being embarrassed in front of the class. Another scenario in which one should always think before you answer is when you are talking to people like friends or family, or simply anyone in particular. You should always think before you say something, due to the fact that anyone could take anything you say in a offensive way. We should always think before we speak because we have to remember that words are very powerful. When speaking many people are very careless, so one should think before speaking because anything can be rapidly misinterpreted. Also something I believe that is very important is that one can actually judge how you are when you speak. For example, if I start talking with improper grammar others may rapidly think of me as something negative. In conclusion, always think before you give an answer; if you actually want to give a good impression.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
Reflection: One should always try to keep things simple when talking to simply avoid to much exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony. When talking many people tend to use exaggeration, sarcasm, and irony a bit to much. Many people are so used to talking this way that they sometimes even find it normal to use. On the other hand, some people are not used to this type of talking which makes them confused once they hear it. In fact, by simply exaggerating, using sarcasm, or irony many people do not even realize that some lies even come out their mouths. These things cause people to lie and it causes others to doubt on what the other person is saying. For example,when one exaggerates we start to add many white lies into our conversation little by little; to simply keep the conversation interesting. When we use sarcasm, the other person starts to believe our sarcasm, and when the person knows we use to much sarcasm they later can not take things seriously; or they later have problems in believing us. Irony is basically like sarcasm, which also makes people not trust you in what you say. In conclusion, when one wants to be taking seriously we should try to avoid to much of exaggeration, sarcasm, and irony.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it
Reflection: One should always try to avoid twisting the truth or leaving out part of it; in order to prevent any type of conflict. In my opinion, as soon as one starts to twist just a little of the truth or as soon as we leave a bit out, we automatically get used to lying which is always a negative thing one can do. By twisting the truth, little by little one starts to throw white lies into the story which later makes you a liar, even for the littlest lies you've made. When you start to leave out things from the story it simply means you're changing the whole story, even for the littlest things you leave out. If one wants to be considered truthful and wants to feel as an honest person one should say things just as things happen. People tend to always add or leave out some things when you say something which really doesn't seem so harmful, but that can actually cause trouble. Due to the fact, that you're being dishonest. Although people may think that it is not such a big deal, it actually is. Even though you see nothing happens in that moment because of the lie you've made, it will be brought up sooner or later; and you'll have to confront it. In conclusion, in order to avoid any conflicts always say things as it happen without adding anything or leaving anything out, because it'll make a huge difference.
6.Don't indulge in little white lies
Reflection: As I've repeated constantly many people always have the urge to add little white lies while talking. Many people believe that just because their little white lies it doesn't really matter or make a huge difference. Little do they know those white lies can really hurt you in the long-run. When one starts to get used to white lies they start to talk with a lot of white lies included but they're so used to it they won't even notice. Believe it or not these white lies start to accumulate little by little until you've made up a huge lie. For example, when telling a story you can add little extra details that are not true which is considered white lies. Once you see that, that lie did not affect anyone you'll keep doing it making your whole story totally fake. In fact many people think of white lies as something non-hurtful; which I believe they shouldn't. If you see white lies as non-hurtful you'll start to believe it is not bad. In conclusion, even though many people think white lies are not bad always think about the long-term consequences it may hold.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
Reflection: In my opinion I believe silent lies are the most dangerous lies their can be. These types of lies simply prevent you from saying the truth. In fact, these kinds of lies are the ones that can get you in big trouble. Due to the fact that you may be lying in order to keep someone else safe/protected. For example, a silent lie can be if one day I see someone cheating on a test and when someone asks who was cheating I just keep quiet. This is an example of a silent lie due to the fact that I keep my truth silent and I simply say a lie. This can later hold huge consequences for both myself and the other person, because sooner or later the other person will get caught by what they did and I will get caught lying. Many people tend to do these silent lies especially when they have to "cover up" their friends or any loved ones. People usually feel as if it is an obligation to lie in order to help a friend out. In my opinion, this is never a good idea because sooner or later the truth is going to come out, and you'll look like the bad person because you lied. In conclusion, it is better to say the truth when one is asked to say it because saying a lie never ends up in a positive way.
8. When you catch yourself lying throw your mouth into reverse
Reflection: When someone says that once you catch yourself lying throw your mouth into reverse; it basically means that you have to start all over and actually say the truth. This can sometimes be very difficult to some but this can be a great practice in order to stop lying and get used to saying the truth. As I've said before many people tend to lie a lot and some are very used to it so when starts to lie they do not notice. On the other hand, if once you hear yourself lie and we go back and say the truth this can be a cause of a great habit. The great habit we may develop is the act of always saying the truth and once you hear a lie you'll correct it. For example, if I'm telling a story to my friend and I notice that I made up a little part I have rephrase myself in order to say nothing but the truth. If you do not reverse you mouth (lie) then others will automatically consider you as a liar and they'll have trouble trusting you. When you do not correct your lie others will sooner or later find out you lied and it will basically ruin your reputation; which can affect you a lot in the long-run. In conclusion, one always has a chance to come back to your lie and actually turn it into something truthful, but once you miss that opportunity you'll automatically become a liar.
9. Talk to yourself
Reflection: Talking to yourself can be something truly beneficial. I believe many people need to at least one time in their lifetime talk to themselves in order to analyze what is going to come out their mouths. Talking to yourself can be done mentally, for example talking to one self to me means to talk in their head. When one does that one is able to hear what they are about to say without actually saying it. When one talks to their self one is able to decide what they are about to say. One is able to think about what they are about to say, for example they are able to decide of they should say it or not and if it's going to affect people. For example, if someone asks me what I did yesterday I answer that question really quick to myself just to see if it makes sense. In fact, talking to oneself is very important because you can rapidly detect lies, and you can see whether you should or should not say it. In conclusion, something good to do is talk to oneself in order to say right things without it having bad consequences.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.
Reflection: Treating yourself when telling the truth is something very important one should do. The reason in which we should do this is because we later start to get used to the fact that telling the truth is nothing but the best thing to do. As I've repeatedly said many people are so used to saying lies that we find it normal. So one way in which we can prevent that from happening is by simply realizing that telling the truth is something very positive. This is also important because we should be able to recognize what is good and what is bad. When one is able to recognize what we do either if it is right or wrong we are able to actually feel proud of our actions. Which simply encourages us to do more positive attributes. Although many people may find it bazaar that treating our own self is something we should do, it actually is. Believe it or not once we start to treat our self we start to develop a sense of positivity and confidence.
Overall Reflection: These ten tips for being more truthful are absolutely great and very beneficial for one's life. If you are able to follow these ten tips then that's a sign of positivity in your life. If you follow these tips it simply shows what type of person you are which is a good and truthful person. The reason in which these tips will benefit you is because they provide an act of greatness and once you follow these tips it shows that you are a CTR person. In order for me to incorporate these tips in my life then I have to be truthful when myself first. I need to make sure I know what type of person I am, either if its a good or a bad person. After I am truthful to myself I have to me truthful to everyone around me, in order to get people's trust and friendship. I have to be truthful about everything and never tell not even the smallest lie there can be. On tip I am focusing on applying to myself is tip number ten, because I feel that I never treat myself even if I've done something great. In conclusion, if one wants to live a life full of happiness and greatness one should always be truthful.